Creating a Separation and
Reunion Ritual
The way the day ends for your child  is so important. It sets the tone for the day and supports the task of learning to separate and reunite. What can you do to make these important times of the day work for you and your child?

Establish a predictable way to separate and reunite with your child. Having a predictable pattern helps children feel comfortable in the transition process. It also prevents children from using arrival and departure times as an opportunity to manipulate parents and teachers. Your arrival at school should look the same each day.

Come into the room, talk a minute with your child's teacher, and put your toddlers thing  away. Next, help your child begin to settle in by offereing him or her a toy to play with or a book to read. don't rush the separation process. It may take your child as long as 15 minutes or so to get ready for you to leave. When you are ready to leave, tell the teacher, kiss and hug your child, say goodbye that you'll be back, and leave, blowing kisses and waving all the while.

Do the same upon your return. Instead of rushing off to gather your child's belonging to go home, cherish the reuniting process. Pick your childup, hug and kiss him or her, and then spend a few minutes getting reconnected. Don't be surprised if your child ignores you for a minute or two. He or she just figured out that you have been somewhere else all day and may take a few minutes to get over being mad about tha't! Sit down and watch your child is doing and follow his or her lead about when to try to reunite again.